Boobs, Surgery and BKChatLDN
Recently I was sent the link to watch BKchat LDN on YouTube - if you haven't seen it yet then you certainly should!
This post is in relation to their second video called "He won't wife me because I've had surgery" something I feel able to speak about since having surgery myself and it's probably the reason the person sent it to me.
As discussed in my previous posts I've explained my reason for my surgery and every woman/man has various reasons for having theirs. Whilst some people believe that some reasons are more "valid" than others, my opinion still remains that like everything else, if it doesn't affect you then why speak negatively about it? The point from which this post derived.
On the day of my surgery, I literally filmed from morning till night and a few days post-operatively too. Most people said nothing, others sent their love and a few gave negative comments. As humans we automatically become defensive when criticised especially when it comes to appearance. This was also me. Until recently, when I found myself again explaining my reasons - almost justifying my actions - and then getting annoyed when people didn't understand why I just needed to do this for myself!
It is often assumed that people who have cosmetic surgery do not love themselves, but I strongly disagree and those who comment quite often don't know the whole story, quickly forming an opinion without knowing facts and probably eat bad food, smoke cigarettes and drink alcohol - so are technically hypocrites as they don't "love" themselves either.
Plastic surgery won't make you love yourself any more. It may give you more confidence IF all goes well and you achieve the results you desire but it won't always be perfect, only an improvement. The truth is, loving yourself starts from within.
As you may know, my surgery journey wasn't a quick one. I waited many years and as Esther (from BKChatLDN) said in her surgery experience video, you have to be mentally stable and prepared for it as, although self-inflicted or a choice, it's not an easy thing to go through. No matter what surgery you have, if you don't love yourself from within then anything added or deducted won't make you value yourself any more - you'll just look nice on the outside but be self destructive on the inside.
When making my decision to have a breast augmentation, finding my future husband didn't cross my mind, as I was in a relationship prior to having surgery and my partner was supportive of my plans. However, I didn't think for a second I'd have to explain my choice to someone in an attempt to keep my relationship because if they genuinely cared about me and my wellbeing, then they would understand and not look at me differently due to it and the components of my body.
In life doing what makes you happy is the best thing you can do for yourself and as long as you're safe about it and not hurting anyone in the process then I don't personally see the issue. F**k what everybody else thinks, it's YOUR journey.
I'm going to ask you to read my previous post called "Born Asleep" so you understand my surgery journey, then and only then can you feel free to leave your comments about surgery.
Talk to you soon,